When you first start seeing someone Really Great you celebrate being together for a month. Six months gets heavy fanfare. A whole year warrants a weeklong celebration and fifty cute selfies.
But for some reason, maybe it’s familiarity, or the introduction of children, or just the general energy-sucking cycle of daily life, the celebrations go from 100 watts to about 20 watts by the time you are actually married, and have earned a legitimate, legal anniversary.
Case in point: I recently texted a mate to wish her and her husbo a happy anniversary. She text back saying: We both forgot.
I found this so dismaying that I immediately sent over a Celine Dion impersonator to serenade the two.
Marriage isn’t always cupcakes and Jesus juice, but it’s important to show each other your marriage is a priority, and that you still love them. An anniversary is a reminder as to why you love and married this person.
My husband and I will nick any excuse to kick up a fuss, especially if it involves a weekend away or a new restaurant or drinking strong, well-mixed alcohol in elegant glasses.
We don’t give a bee’s burp about those gifts you’re ‘meant’ to give each year, like paper, silver, or leather, or insect wings, but we do think you should give each other a ‘memory’ – commemorate each other, and what you have achieved in another year of marriage by doing something, whether it’s something you’ve always wanted to do, or something you used to do but never do anymore, or just doing nothing.
And yes, the longer you’ve been married, the more extravagant and obnoxious those things are allowed to be. (I plan on buying a diamond-encrusted pergola for our 20th.)
In case you’re struggling, here are some ways to give your anniversary a figurative tequila shot this year: